[Shalashaska]

Ok so I recently broke up with my girlfriend of over two years. We were at a point in both our lives that made it really hard to uphold the relationship and I knew that it was time to end it. I told her and myself that I didn't want another relationship for a long time. I wanted to try to figure out my own life before becoming too much a part of someone elses.

But shortly after we broke up I met another girl who really made an impression on me. I got along great with her whenever we hung out and we hooked up a couple days ago. We definitely like each other a lot and this is someone I think I could have a relationship with, but I still feel the same in regards to not getting too involved with anyone. How can I let her know that I would like to keep things casual? Is that even the right thing to do? Im starting to think getting with her was a mistake cus shes a really cool person and I dont want to end up a jerk and mess with her feelings (if she wants to pursue a deeper relationship). I realize I will probably have to tell her straight up how I feel eventually but in the mean time I would like to keep her around without giving her any false signals.

[ryscaprice]

You need to tell her now that you aren't interested in a relationship right now.

You can't keep this going on without her knowing for certain without really making an ass of yourself.

Explain that you like her a lot, but you aren't really willing to settle down and commit right now.
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William Shakespeare

[soy_picante23]

I was in your same boat buddy, except I'm female version of you in the story. I was in a 2 1/2 year relationship. I knew it wasn't going anywhere, so I dumped him, nicely of course I was planning that I was just going to date around, meet new people and have fun. I met some people, but one person really grabbed my attention. I didn't want it to be anything serious and I told him that. But somehow it ended up being that. I decided not to fight it and when he asked me out, bf/gf style, I gladly accepted. Sometimes something we fear the most, happens and turns out good. I was afraid of commitment and becoming to close to someone, but that's what life is about.

We are now very much in love

If you learn anything from my story, I hope it's the fact that there is that one person out there who can change your outlook on life for the better. And the best things in life typically happen when you least expect them!